If you look inside your pack of VC enlarging paper, there is supposed to be a contrast chart for different enlarger makes. Mine is a Durst with the 0-130 scale. Other models have the 0-200 scale. You have to check those out carefully. Also, adding a filter usually forces you to change exposure (filter factor). With my enlarger's instructions came a chart for filter compensation. Add this to the compensation required by the paper for the grade change and you can get a reliable number which is repeatable (you actually need to multiply).
As for muddy prints, it's not exposure related. Muddiness relates to paper grade. Also, old paper and underdevelopment can be at cause.
As a rule of thumb, the more magenta you dial in, the more contrast you get. The more yellow, the softer the print.