I appreciate everyones input, I'm probably making things much more complicated than they need to be
This is the regular situation when you start doing something new. And - as we say here - many roads lead to Rome. Everyone has to find his own workflow, and it can be quite different depending on the used gear and own taste. I.e. I prefer quite contrasty negs, I`m convinced that they contain more information than flat ones and they are easier for me to edit to the desired result. All scanner devices can handle rather dense negs, only transparencies can be a problem for some.
Getting the final picture needs some steps from exposure to the final edit, and each one affects the image quality. Play a lot with settings, try to disable all automatics in your scanner software. Post processing the scans is almost always a must. First and most important step imho is to learn to read a histogramm and work with the curves tool in your editing software. You don`t need Photoshop, there are other good and free progs.
If you like grain, you will like Kentmere 400 (APX 400 new is the same but rebranded) in Caffenol-C:
http://caffenol.blogspot.de/2016/08/apx-new-emulsion.htmlAnd if you want to see the grain in its full beauty, you will probably look for a better resolving scanner. Your Epson flatbed(?) is exhausted with 35mm film at max. 2000 x 3000 pix, probably less. But first steps first ....
Or do just the opposite ;-)